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4/26 Are You Swinging to Enhance or Fix Your Relationship?
Posted:Apr 26, 2022 9:13 am
Last Updated:Apr 26, 2022 9:20 am
The difference may seem nuanced, but swinging rarely fixes problems.

Our long-time podcast listeners have heard us say over and over again that we dont recommend getting into the swinger lifestyle as a means of fixing a relationship that is less than ideal. It can be problematic, even disastrous if one or both partner decides to partake of the lifestyle in order to fill in an important missing component in the relationship or tries to make a relationship work that currently is not working for one or both partners.
But the difference between fixing and enhancing a relationship can be nuanced.
Is it OK to get something from a play partner that is different than what you get from your primary partner? Does your relationship have to be 100% trouble-free for swinging to work for you as a couple? What counts as fixing and what counts as enhancing?
Lets tackle enhancing first.
If you’re in a respectful, mutually satisfying relationship and you both agree that youd like to expand the boundaries of your sexual activities to include other people, youre looking to enhance what you already have. Thats a great reason to try out the Lifestyle! Wed argue that its the ideal reason. Your relationship is not likely to be 100% problem-free (we havent met anyone in that situation, ever). But if your communication is consistently strong and your level of commitment to one another is off-the-charts, swinging can be a fun enhancement for both partners.
It may happen that one or the other (or both) of you find that you experience things with others in a play experience that are different than the things you experience with your partner thats part of the excitement of the Lifestyle! Thats, not the same as seeking out a fix to problems you may experience with your primary partner.
If you get something from other play partners that you dont get from your primary partner, it doesnt mean youre trying to fix a missing part of your relationship. It means youre enjoying a variety of human experiences. And, if youre doing it well, youre also talking about those experiences with your partner and encouraging one another to explore and enjoy them.
So, whats fixing?
Fixing is when one or both partners are less-than-satisfied with the intimacy of their primary relationship and hope that opening up to experiences with others will fulfill the missing component, often without discussing it fully (or at all) with one another. Fixing is using the Lifestyle in place of honest communication and maybe in place of counseling that would strengthen the relationship. Fixing occurs when a couple feels unhappy with each other, whether they discuss it or not, and look to the Lifestyle as a salve for that dissatisfaction.
It may be that the couple loves and admires one another a great deal, but experiences difficulties or incompatibilities in their sexual relationship. The Lifestyle isnt a great way to fix that. In fact, opening up a relationship with sexual tension to others may jeopardize the relationship. On top of that, it may cause drama that gets foisted on the play partners invited in. Nobody in the Lifestyle wants to become part of a schism between two primary partners.
How can you tell if youre fixing versus enhancing?
Take an honest inventory of where you are in your relationship. Ask important questions, such as Can/do we talk openly, candidly, and without reservation with each other about our sexual desires and fantasies?
Do we have a fulfilling intimate life right now, with each other?
Do we both have a desire to experiment with the Lifestyle, or is one of us trying to convince the other?
Is there anything we should address about our intimate life or relationship that one or both of us would rather avoid?
If you find one or both of you would rather not address all those questions honestly, thats the first sign that youre heading toward trying to fix. If you are able to be very honest in your responses to those questions and the answers are YES, YES, YES, and NO youre probably looking to enhance more than fixing your relationship.
Posted:Apr 24, 2022 9:59 am
Last Updated:Apr 24, 2022 10:02 am

Some adult profiles can seem inauthentic and determining which ones are real can prove a bit more challenging — particularly when it comes to adult personals in the swingers lifestyle.

However, with these easy tips, you can more easily spot if someone you’re considering for play is truly who they say they are with intentions that match up with your own.

Pay Attention to Swinger Profile Details
Take a close look at the sexual preferences, weight, height, and other pertinent details in all the swingers personals you review. Those that are incomplete or seem too good to be true should fall under careful scrutiny.

Be leery of profiles that only talk about hooking up and sex—unless that’s what you’re into. High-quality content in the profile such as hobbies, habits, family, and doing ‘together’ activities is likely to lead to discovering more stable couples and individuals in the swingers community versus those looking to cheat or have a quick fling.

Swingers Profile Images: Evaluating and a Few Warning Signs
Pretty much every swingers website has a place for members to post public and private images that can be viewed by other members of the site. Pay attention to the images being shared in your public profile. Be sure to crop or blur out identifying features if privacy is a top concern.

When you view photos, see how well they match up with the swingers personals description provided. Most swingers website has image protection enabled so other members cannot be added to a lookie loo’s personal collection.

While it’s smart to be cautious doling out pics, couples should be cautious of others not willing to share any pics of their own or who insist on going off-platform to an IM or email. If they refuse to talk or exchange emails and photos before meeting—just say “No, thanks!” and move on to more realistic matches. Those who don’t show themselves might simply have something to hide.

Use Swingers Websites Certification As A Guide
Not all sites have a certification process that helps verify a couple or single as being a ‘real’ swinger. Certs aren’t just indicators of proven sexcapades, but they are a good way to let other members know you’re serious about the lifestyle.

It’s a definite bonus if people you’re considering hooking up with have a few well-written letters from other swingers they’ve met or have connections with other lifestyle groups to add to their merit.

The most important thing in evaluating a swingers profile is to be sure they are a good match for you and your desires. Take time to make a connection through video chats, emails, and phone calls before meeting up in person. Try not to share too much information about yourself or your family until you know your play partner(s) a little better.

Wife Sharing and Why Women Love It
Wife Sharing In the swing lifestyle there are many types of relationships that can be practiced. For instance, there is wife sharing where a woman can have sex with more than one man. This has its own benefits which have made many women like it, For instance, in case a woman has more sex drive … Continue reading Wife Sharing and Why Women Love It→

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Learn how to implement Swinging for a Happy and Stable Relationship. A lot of times, people are certain that having a relationship means being completely devoted to a partner in every possible way. This especially includes the domain of intimacy,…
Posted 4/24
Six reasons younger men like older women
Posted:Apr 17, 2022 10:03 am
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2022 10:14 am
The older woman/younger man relationship is desirable for a multitude of reasons. Once a man has dated or had sex with someone older, he tends to have a preference for that dynamic. These relationships can last a few days or years, but rarely are they remembered as anything but positive experiences. Heres why:
1. Confidence
The most appealing trait in anyone is self-confidence. Many older women have developed their own sense of style and after years of growth both mentally and physically theyre comfortable in their own skin. This is of utmost importance when attracting someone whether its in a personal or business relationship. An older woman has gone through different life passages and by now she knows who she is and what she wants. Frequently she is financially independent and streetwise. Younger men want to be with her because of the positive energy she emits. Her self-assurance will have a reciprocal effect on the man too. Hell gain maturity by being in the relationship. This will help build his character and make him feel good about himself.

2. Knowledge About Sex and Life
Older women have years of sexual experience with men of all ages. She had a lot of practice whether it was with multiple partners or one man. Being with a woman who can teach the younger guy a few new tricks is extremely alluring, especially to those who havent had many partners or experiences. The older woman knows her own body and what turns her on. She has the owners manual and shares it willingly with her partners. She is self-aware and knows what she wants in and out of the bedroom. An older woman may have discovered what her passions are, and will likely help guide the younger man to follow his gut. She teaches him to avoid listening to the naysayers. Older women are great teachers. The younger man will be comfortable discussing career and life goals with a woman whos eager to share her life wisdom.

3. No Game Playing
Older women are done playing games. They are straight shooters and will be honest about what they want in the relationship and what they wont accept. They™will answer phone calls and texts without waiting days to respond like their younger counterparts. They will demand respect from the younger man because they respect themselves. An older woman will tell the guy whats on her mind instead of making him try to guess what she is thinking. Typically the younger guy won’t need to worry about pregnancy prevention since the older woman will be equally concerned having already had her own . He will come to expect future women of any age to be more mature and responsible.

4. Communication
One of the most desirable aspects of having sex with an older woman is that she will express what she wants. A younger less experienced woman may worry that if she shares her desires, she may lose the man. She may be embarrassed to tell a guy what turns her on sexually. Older women communicate their desires without hesitation. An older woman wont expect the guy to have ESP and will express her needs rather than make him try to read her mind. She will ask him to openly share what he likes in bed and in the relationship. The older woman wont shy away from offering advice on personal hygiene. Shell encourages him to dress like a man “ , not a boy. This will spill over into other areas of his life, as he gets encouragement from people about his new look.

5. Freedom
The younger man can be free to be himself with an older woman. He wont need to impress her with a fake bravado the way he might think a younger woman would expect. Hes with the older woman for companionship and sex without worrying that she wants something more – like marriage. He feels nurtured and cared for by her, and doesnt feel the demands of taking care of the younger more needy girl. This works well for the guy whos concentrating on finding his passion and/or career. As previously stated, older women dont want to start new families and this takes the pressure off the younger guy. He can be with her when he wants and there arent any obligations other than to have fun. Once the relationship is over, the resulting friendship may continue to last throughout their lifetimes.

6. Game Changer
The younger guy may receive a great ego boost knowing that a hot older woman finds him desirable. The older woman will come to expect a certain amount of emotional maturity, which if achieved, will have a great effect on the younger mans confidence with all women. His friends may originally question the relationship but ultimately envy him. After gaining self-awareness and knowledge about what women want, in the future, the younger guy will be comfortable being in relationships with women of all ages. Some guys may end up finding their life partner in the older woman, whereas others may move on to be with women their own age or younger.
Tips to Choose the Right Partner for a Threesome
Posted:Apr 14, 2022 7:33 am
Last Updated:Apr 14, 2022 7:35 am
A Threesome is really a different version of normal sex. It is important for you to be sure that you are ready for it before you think about it. It can be a good choice for couples but they should be choosing the right person for the same. If you are really comfortable watching another person touching your partner and being intimate, you should decide to have this mind-blowing sexual experience. If you feel that you may have the issues of anger, sadness, or jealousy then better to stay away from the threesome. Your relationship needs to be stable before you decide on a threesome.

A Distant Friend

A friend’s friend whom you have never met can be the perfect person to be chosen for your threesome. If you are just two friends who want to enjoy a threesome then it is important that you stay safe. Choosing a friend whom you know but do not know much about can be a great pick for such an intimidating experience. There are quite a lot of guys who are really interested in threesomes these days and so it’s not hard for you to get somebody especially if the extra person is male. Choosing a friend of sorts, ensures your safety and also can make the experience very comfortable.

Attached or Single Person

There are chances for you to even get swingers for threesomes. They can be really amazing with you. Swingers are very common these days which increases your chances of finding the right partner for the relationship. Most swingers belong to the oldest largest running swingers dating site called Swinglifestyle. There are also many clubs for swingers so it’s easy for you to choose the one that is right for you. These clubs provide you with more freedom than you imagine. Threesomes are no more considered as a weird or impossible thing. The fact is that these days many couples or individuals are there do not believe in sexual monogamy but they love to experience trios and the great feeling with it. It is really a new outlook toward sex that is getting embraced at a faster pace by this generation. If you are interested in such a kind of sexual experience, the only thing you should be careful with is that you should not harm your relationship.
The Swinger's Diary 2010 Roy and Tammy
Posted:Apr 11, 2022 9:07 am
Last Updated:Apr 12, 2022 1:31 pm
Roy and Tammy were one of those couples that did not let an age difference stop them from swinging.

Tammy was in her mid 20's and we actually didn't meet on an adult dating site. Roy and I worked for the same company and it was just natural that he shared that he was married to a much younger woman and she was just wearing him out. This conversation went on over the next weeks and then Roy invited me over for a barbecue on a Saturday.

It was just me and Roy and Tammy. The beer was cold and the food was great and as the evening wore on we hit the hot tub since I didn't have trunks it was just easier for all of us to get nude. Tammy was slender with nice apple-shaped tits. It wasn't long before Roy asked me if I would like to have sex with Tammy. Not one to turn down an offer like that we moved into the bedroom where Tammy was more than accommodating and we got it on while Roy watched and played with his cock.

We enjoyed many more hot tub adventures over that summer until the company I worked for transferred me to another city. We kept in touch and still remain friends.

This is an older photo of Roy and Tammy shared with their OK...Forgot I had the photo of Tammy's friend Carol

The Swinger's Diary 1981
Posted:Apr 7, 2022 8:36 am
Last Updated:Apr 7, 2022 8:37 am
I was just getting into the swinging scene in the early 80s and one of my first interactions with a couple was Stewart and DD. This was their first time having a threesome and all of us admittingly were a bit shy.

We broke the ice with me taking out my camera and getting them to allow me to photograph them nude.

Funny but it was DD that seemed more comfortable when she insisted that I too had to be nude. It did not take long before we were laughing and ended up on the bed with DD giving us both oral.

It was a great experience as an introduction to swinging.

The attached photo is indeed DD! In retrospect, we all have aged. She would be near 70.
WWYD...What would you do!
Posted:Apr 1, 2022 10:24 am
Last Updated:Apr 1, 2022 10:25 am
What would you do in a case where a person or persons repeatedly view your profile or send flirts from a gold account, and they will not respond!

I find these individuals rude and assume that, in my case, just perving my photos...

I will respond even if to say "sorry not interested"...

I doubt that those particular individuals will even read this the rest of you...

That is all...Carry on...
Are you poly, swinger or something in between? Whats the difference?
Posted:Mar 19, 2022 8:46 am
Last Updated:Mar 19, 2022 8:50 am

Swingers are non-monogamous people who engage in sex with partners outside of their primary relationship. Wikipedia defines polyamory as the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships involving more than two people, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It has been described as consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy.€

There are many swingers who have strict rules against any type of emotionally intimate relationship outside of their primary relationship. These are rules in place to preserve the primary relationship, but how effective are rules in governing our emotions?

In my opinion, everyone is poly, or at the very least has the capacity to be poly. Think about it. Have you ever intimately known someone who loved one person and only that one person for the rest of their life?

This opinion of mine has been reinforced by 17 years of being a part of the SwingTowns team. If a member decides to delete their account at SwingTowns, we ask them what their reason is for leaving. Guess what the number one reason is for people who classify themselves as swingers they found a special someone or a special couple and they just arent looking to meet anyone new. So their relationship with this other person or people has expanded to include something more (meaningful, maybe?) than just sex not that theres anything wrong with casual sex of course!

So, what do you think? Are you poly, a swinger, or something in between?
Benefits of Intercourse
Posted:Mar 12, 2022 11:11 am
Last Updated:Mar 12, 2022 11:12 am

Multiple studies have confirmed that sex is extremely beneficial to your health. Health care provider and medical doctor Nicole H. Cirino says it’s because “sex activates a variety of neurotransmitters that impact not only our brains but several other organs in our bodies.”
Here’re five health benefits of sex that will help you remain healthy:
1. Pain relief
The hormones your body releases when having sex are known as natural pain killers. I’m talking about dopamine and serotonin.
For people who menstruate, this can mean fewer menstrual cramps.
Research suggests that sexual activity can also provide relief from headaches. Most of the study participants who were sexually active during their migraines reported moderate to complete termination of pain.
These are the exact results:
60% reported an improvement during a migraine
70% reported moderate to complete relief during a migraine
37% percent reported improvement of symptoms in cluster headaches
91% percent reported moderate to complete relief in cluster headaches
Next time you experience pain, you’ll know what to do before grabbing a painkiller.
2. Mental health boost
Sex can help you reduce stress and anxiety. It can also increase your happiness.
Studies suggest having sex can correlate with mental health satisfaction, increased trust, intimacy, and love in a relationship. It might also correlate with expressing, identifying, and perceiving emotions better.
What is more, according to Healthline, sex at an older age can lead to better memory. A study also indicates sexually active adults tend to feel less depressed and less lonely.
Regular sex has outstanding effects on our mental health and contributes to a balanced everyday life.
3. Better sleep
A common practice is that sex helps us to fall asleep. The reason for this is the chemicals that are released in your body after orgasm. These chemicals release stress hormones, which have a calming effect and usually help people fall asleep faster.
Here’s the thorough explanation by the Manual Team, which was medically reviewed and approved by Dr. Earim Chaudry.
“When you orgasm, your body releases a mix of neurochemicals, including oxytocin, serotonin, vasopressin, and prolactin, all of which can help prepare you for sleep.
Oxytocin and serotonin make you feel euphoric and relaxed and inhibit cortisol, the hormone that makes you feel stressed. (…)
Your body naturally releases all these hormones at night, alongside melatonin, as part of your sleep-wake cycle. While melatonin is the hormone responsible for making you feel tired, the mix of these other hormones can help put you in the right frame for sleep. If you masturbate and orgasm, you’re effectively boosting that process.”
To be precise, better sleep can lead to a stronger immune system, a longer life, more energy during the whole day. Obviously, if you sleep well, you’ll also feel more well-rested.
Stronger immune system
An immunity study shows people in a relationship, who have sex one to two times a week, have more immunoglobulin A (IgA) in their saliva. Those who have infrequent sex less than once a week have significantly less IgA.
It’s good to know that IgA is “the antibody that plays a role in preventing illnesses and is the first line of defense against human papillomavirus, or HPV.”
Yet, unfortunately, stress and anxiety can diminish the positive effects of sex. The study concluded this by observing that people who had sex more than three times a week had the same amount of IgA in their saliva compared to those who had irregular sex.
Fewer risks for...
Overall, sex can help to reduce your risk of heart disease, stroke, and hypertension.
A study focusing on men concluded that participants who reported infrequent sexual activity had a higher risk of cardiovascular disease. During the study period, men who had sex once per month had a 45% increased risk of cardiovascular disease. At the same time, men who had sex at least twice per week had lower chances of having cardiovascular disease.
Having sex isn’t only pleasurable, it also has some serious health effects.
It can:
release your pain
boost your mental health
contribute to a better sleep
strengthen the immune system
reduce your risk of heart disease, stroke, and hypertension
Maybe an intercourse a day will be too much in the long run, but regular sexual intercourse might really keep the doctor away.
3/12 Hehehehehehe
Posted:Mar 12, 2022 8:14 am
Last Updated:Mar 12, 2022 8:16 am
Boob joke
5 Cons of Swinging
Posted:Mar 9, 2022 11:09 am
Last Updated:Mar 9, 2022 11:13 am

OK, now what are some of the downsides of swinging?

1. Keeping Your Lifestyle a Secret
Granted even though some swingers like the novelty of having a secret, quite a few feel the need to keep this particular part of there life secret due to society’s view of swinging.

Whether for reasons due to family, friends, job, political, or religious beliefs, unfortunately, there are still a lot of people who confuse swinging with cheating or immorality.

Photo of threesome from Wild ThingsUnfortunately a lot of people still confuse swinging with cheating or immorality.
When we lose our capacity to embrace differences, we lose the ability to understand and see that even if it is something doesn’t work in our relationship, we shouldn’t penalize someone who believes it to be a benefit in their relationship.

When we take away someone’s right to be who they are, we miss out on all the brilliant differences and the opportunity to learn something new.

2. Partners Can Disagree
This is a big one. When venturing into the swinging lifestyle, it is vital that both people within the couple want to swing.

I have seen instances where one partner wants to swing, and the other partner will agree to this only to keep their partner “happy,” or the agreement to swing is uneven. The partners both agree to swing, but the rules they set up will be out of balance due to one partner’s fears.

Photo of threesome from Spring BreakersWhen venturing into the swinging lifestyle, it is vital that both people want to swing.
Instead of enhancing the relationship, the swinging ends up creating resentments between the couple. Remember honest communication has got to be at the core of any (whether you swing or not) successful relationship.

3. It Can Be Hard to Find Play Partners
Just because you and your partner have decided to open the relationship by way of swinging does not necessarily mean you will have an endless supply of play partners.

Photo of American Psycho threesomeJust because you’re swinging doesn’t mean you’ll have an endless supply of play partners.
Being able to find four people who all get along, are all attracted to each other, and have similar play rules can be a challenge sometimes, making play planning feel more like work sometimes.

4. Swinging Can Be Time-Consuming
Whether planning to play together or separately, whether playing in a swingers club or house parties, being able to devote enough time can sometimes be a challenge, especially when our time is already divided between work schedules, , sports, and family.

Photo of On the Road threesomeDevoting enough time to swinging can be a challenge, especially when it’s divided between work and family.
5. Fears Can Surface
We can be in fear of a wide range of possibilities, from fear of our partner leaving us for someone else to fear of giving or receiving to much attention with a play partner to fear of constantly comparing ourselves to others.

If left unexamined, our fears can create a whole array of emotions, including anxiety, resentment, and jealousy.

Photo of Alpha threesomeIf you’re able to talk to your partner about your feelings, fears become an ally to learning.
Most importantly, it’s necessary to remember our fears can be a pro or a con, depending on what you do with the feeling once it surfaces. If we take our feelings and react or fight against them, then they become an enemy, something to protect ourselves against.

If you are able to talk to your partner about your feelings and learn to talk yourself through them, then your fears become an ally to learning.

Either way, we will learn something. It just depends on what lesson we decide to focus on.

I encourage anyone interested in swinging or open relationships to take that all-important first step into the lifestyle pool to explore and see for yourself whether this lifestyle is something you wish to pursue.

For me it didn’t take long after that first threesome to step back from the pool, jump into the air, and yell “cannonball!”
3/9 MMSLTF...Mature Male She would like to fuck
Posted:Mar 9, 2022 8:40 am
Last Updated:Mar 12, 2022 8:15 am

Change up for the ladies
The Five Pros Of Swinging
Posted:Mar 7, 2022 1:45 pm
Last Updated:Mar 7, 2022 1:50 pm
When you decide to swing, you dont necessarily have this tidy list of pros and cons that occur in succession. Its more of a swirling plethora of emotions as you and your partner explore a new terrain of possibilities within the relationship.

What is interesting about this new terrain, at least for most of us, is it is uncharted territory, so the list of pros and cons sort of materializes as you explore. This is all part of the joy you may experience in learning and deepening your relationship through swinging.

5 Pros of Swinging
Swinging can do wonders for your relationship, so lets start with the good news first the pros! If you want to jump to the cons, click here.

1. Opens Lines of Sexual Communication
This is my favorite pro because it brings the topic of sex off the shelf and pushes it to the front of the line.

I cant think of anything more loving than to be open and honest with your partner about what you desire sexually. Being able to discuss those desires in a loving and non-judgmental atmosphere deepens and strengthens the love between the partners.

Photo of the threesome from I Love You, Beth CooperI cant think of anything more loving than to be open with your partner about what you desire sexually.
I love when John and I can sit and discuss fantasies with each other or have deep conversations about how grateful we are to have such a satisfying sex life with each other.

2. Lets You Explore a Variety of Sexual Partners and Experiences
Whether you are in a long-term marriage or just starting your relationship, swinging is a perfect avenue to experiment with different erotic fantasies.

Photo of Vicky, Christina, BarcelonaEach new partner provides a slightly different prism in which to see sex.
What John and I have found in our swinging experiences is each new partner provides us with a slightly different prism in which to see sex a kaleidoscope of movements and emotions and positions in which we gain a deeper insight into each other and what we enjoy sexually.

3. Creates a Platform to Tackle Your Fears
Bringing fears to the surface may not seem like a pro, but believe me when I say that getting them out in the open is so much better than keeping fears hidden.

Photo of Alcide threesome from TruebloodBeing able to talk about issues with your partner can open the door to deeper levels of trust.
In order to deal with our fears, we first must admit we have them. If it bothers you to have your spouse kiss a play partner, for instance, being able to talk about the issue with your partner can and will open the door to deeper levels of trust, honesty, and a team effort in dealing with whatever issues arise.

4. Enhances an Already Strong Relationship
This can be a difficult one for those outside the swinging lifestyle to understand. How can having sex with someone else ever lead to stronger bonds between a couple?

I know before I became a swinger this was a question I had. I also realized how easy it can be to form opinions about certain lifestyle choices based on what we are told, not what we actually go out and try for ourselves.

Once I realized I was guilty of living my life on the foundation of what others said was correct instead of deciding for myself, I was able to cross that line in the sand and see what would happen if I gave swinging an opportunity.

Photo of threesome from SavagesJohn and I love experiencing the bonding that takes place when we share ourselves with others.
What I found out was, at least for John and me, the swinging lifestyle was a perfect fit. We are both highly sexual beings (which we also believe to be quite normal) and love being in our relationship with each other, but we also love experiencing the bonding that takes place when we share ourselves with others.

Not does it satisfy what we believe to be an innate need for variety, but it also reminds us of how lucky and blessed we are to have each other. Plus it makes for some fantastic sexually-charged conversations!

5. Provides an Opportunity to Give Compersion a Try
I use this word quite often when I talk about the swinging lifestyle because I love the whole concept wrapped in its definition. Most of the time you will hear that compersion is the opposite of jealousy.

Photo of Sookie, Bill, and Erics threesome. way to work toward feeling compersion is to see jealousy as constricted and compersion as expansive.”
I read recently in The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships” by Kathy Labriola that way to work toward feeling compersion is to see jealousy as a constricted state and compersion being an expansive state.

I love this! I know how much better I feel when I have room to move about, to throw my arms out wide and be free. I also know the feeling of constriction, when something is tightly bound, when I am unable to move, the almost panic that can ensue from this constriction.

If I can keep this image in the forefront of my mind when it comes to my partner, then I will be more conscious of when my behavior or response creates a constricted atmosphere or of freedom.

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